His wife cheated on him for 10 years, and he says something you will never forget!

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Life is a beautiful song. Only the lyrics are messed up”.

Life is considered to be a messed up journey in which one has to deal with various complications. And what are those complications? It could be your job, your relationship status, your bond with your family -anything!

When you are young,  you see dreams. But how may of you actually live it? You dream to change the world. But as soon as you graduate, and get a job, you get so stuck up with things that you even forget what dreams really mean! 

And someday, after so many years of this messed up life, while sitting in your balcony, sipping a cup of coffee, you will wonder! You will wonder that ‘Who are you’. You will ponder upon the thoughts that  have you ever done anything which makes your life worth living. You will wonder if you have lived your dreams or have atleast tried. 

A 46 YO person shared his story on ‘Reddit’. He spoke about everything that you will think about someday! He shared his past, his dreams, his approach towards life, his present and his regrets.  A heartfelt story, yet gives an important message to our youth.

He writes:

Hi, my name’s John. I’ve been lurking for a while, but I’ve finally made an account to post this. I need to get my life off my chest. About me. I’m a 46-year-old banker and I have been living my whole life the opposite of how I wanted. All my dreams, my passion, gone. In a steady 9-7 job. 6 days a week. For 26 years. I repeatedly chose the safe path for everything, which eventually changed who I was.

Today I found out my wife has been cheating on me for the last 10 years. My son feels nothing for me. I realized I missed my father’s funeral FOR NOTHING.I didn’t complete my novel, traveling the world, helping the homeless. All these things I thought I knew to be a certainty about myself when I was in my late teens and early twenties. If my younger-self  met me today, I would have punched myself in the face. I’ll get to how those dreams were crushed soon.

Let’s start with a description of me when I was 20.
It seemed only yesterday when I was sure I was going to change the world. People loved me, and I loved people. I was innovative, creative, spontaneous, risk-taking and great with people. I had two dreams. The first was writing a utopic/dystopic book. The second was traveling the world and helping the poor and homeless. I had been dating my wife for four years by then. Young love. She loved my spontaneity, my energy, my ability to make people laugh and feel loved. I knew my book was going to change the world. I would show the perspective of the ‘bad’ and the ‘twisted’, showing my viewers that everybody thinks differently, that people never think what the do is wrong. I was 70 pages through when I was 20. I am still 70 pages in, at 46. By 20, I had backpacking around New Zealand and the Philippines. I planned to do all of Asia, then Europe, then America (I live in Australia by the way). To date, I have only been to New Zealand and the Philippines.

Now, we get to where it all went wrong. My biggest regrets. I was 20. I was the only child. I needed to be stable. I needed to take that graduate job, which would dictate my whole life. To devote my entire life to a 9-7 job. What was I thinking? How could I live, when the job was my life? After coming home, I would eat dinner, prepare my work for the following day, and sleep at 10pm, to wake up at 6am the following day. God, I can’t remember the last time I’ve made love to my wife.

Yesterday, my wife admitted to cheating on me for the last 10 years. 10 years. That seems like a long time but I can’t comprehend it. It doesn’t even hurt. She says it’s because I’ve changed. I’m not the person I was.

What have I been doing in the last 10 years? Outside of work, I really can’t say anything. Not being a proper husband. Not being ME. Who am I? What happened to me? I didn’t even ask for a divorce, or yell at her, or cry. I felt NOTHING.

Now I can feel a tear as I write this. But not because my wife has been cheating on me, but because I am now realizing I have been dying inside. What happened to that fun-loving, risk-taking, energetic person that was me, hungering to change the world? I remember being asked on a date by the most popular girl in the school, but declining her for my now-wife. God, I was really popular with the girls in High School. In University/College too. But I stayed loyal. I didn’t explore. I studied every day.

Remember all that backpacking and book-writing I told you about? That was all in the first few years of college. I worked part-time and splurged all that I had earned.

Now, I save every penny. I don’t remember a time I spend anything on anything fun. On anything for myself. What do I even want now?

My father passed ten years ago. I remember getting calls from mom, telling me he was getting sicker and sicker. I was getting busier and busier, on the verge of a big promotion. I kept putting my visit off, hoping in my mind he would hold on. He died, and I got my promotion. I haven’t seen him in 15 years. When he died, I told myself it didn’t matter what I didn’t see him.Being an atheist, I rationalized that being dead, it wouldn’t matter anyway. WHAT WAS I THINKING? Rationalizing everything, making excuses to put things off. Excuses. Procrastination. It all leads to one thing, nothing. 

I rationalized that financial security was the most important thing. I now know, that it definitely is not. I regret doing nothing with my energy when I had it. My passions. My youth. I regret letting my job take over my life. I regret being an awful husband, a money-making machine. I regret not finishing my novel, not traveling the world. Not being emotionally there for my son. Being a damn emotionless wallet.

If you’re reading this, and you have a whole life ahead of you, please. Don’t procrastinate. Don’t leave your dreams for later. Relish in your energy, your passions. Don’t stay on the internet with all your spare time (unless your passion needs it). Please, do something with your life while your young. DO NOT settle down at 20. DO NOT forget your friends, your family. Yourself. Do NOT waste your life. Your ambitions. Like I did mine. Do not be like me.”

Although his life is all fucked up. But atleast our youth can learn some lessons from his life. 

Life is too short to live with regrets. The moment is now. You never know whether you are going to be alive tomorrow or not. Why not making the best out of it today? Live your dreams!


5 thoughts on “His wife cheated on him for 10 years, and he says something you will never forget!

  1. yes……dude…….at tyms wen someon really cry out loud………….he finds himself alone..amidst a materialistic world…..

    tym changes n past become memories…really enjoyed reading 🙂

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  2. I feel bad for this man but I also have to say Fuck Him and his whiny bullshit. He isn’t on his death bed, he isn’t even fifty yet. He has years to live. Instead of writing this blog he should have been finishing his story. Leave the horrible wife,Ingrateful wife and go do something real.


    1. Yeah! He still have lots of time to do a lots of things. But what I think is that he must have written this blog because he wanted to cry his heart out and he must want that other people should not neglect their actual life, the way he did. Perhaps he must be doing what he always wanted to do after realizing his mistake!


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